Carrie Hope Fletcher, a woman I adore and respect massively, recently made a YouTube video about sexual health and which encourages her viewers, to go and get checked. Although chances are there won't be anything wrong, it's better to be safe than sorry, right?
I think Carrie tackles the topic so well and maturely and she deserves so much credit for being so comfortable with something so many are too scared to talk about.
I always read the comments on Carrie's videos because, not only are the hopefuls some of the most wonderful people in the world, but because she often replies to comments asking for advice and, as a big sister myself, I like to learn from the way she answers questions in case my sibling ever needs advice from me. I was so happy reading the comments in this video, even more than normal, because so many people were so willing to talk about sex, and their experiences- both of how to say 'no' and how to tell if your partner is ready. Consent is so important with any sexual experience and the fact Carrie was willing to talk about it meant that most of her half a million subscribers also felt comfortable sharing their stories and concerns.
Talking about sex doesn't necessarily involve going into details about all the bits and bobs involved. It doesn't have to involve everyone sharing their own individual experiences. But it does involve discussing what is safe, what you/your partner want and at what stage you feel uncomfortable going any further. Because 'sex' as a whole is seen as an awkward topic, it means important issues like this are ignored and that needs to stop.
If you feel uncomfortable or unhappy about anything, talk to someone- a friend, maybe a close family member, or if you have no one you feel you can talk to, my email address is in the contact section of this blog. The more we talk, the less uncomfortable it becomes- not only does sex become less of a taboo subject, but it makes it easier for victims of sexual harassment and abuse to come forward. And really, that's what's more important in all of this.
Thanks for reading- I know this is more of a serious post than normal but I'm so passionate about it and genuinely believe that talking can help a lot if others are willing to listen...